Crystal Clear

So now that I’m living in close quarters with two other people (lovely people), adjustments need to be made.

I have to be careful of my expectations. They’ve needed to be adjusted many times and sometimes I’ve had a hard time with it, but not necessarily knowing that’s why I’m upset. I’ve hoped (expected) to move to our permanent room earlier than later, and that hasn’t happened yet. So, I have to tell myself it’s okay, and to change my expectation.

The more problematic expectations are those we have for others, without telling that person, or conversely, the expectations people think another person have for them. It is vitally important to communicate and dialogue about these expectations.

At the same time, if something is not said, it is important to not project what might be thought. It’s a hard rule to live by, but if someone hasn’t told me there is a problem, I need to carry on as if things are okay. Which means that if I have a problem with someone, I need to find a way to talk about it with them.

That’s hard, but so necessary for the common life to function the way it should.

Look out – bumps ahead! But the joy and growth possible! Visit commonlife.ca for more information and our framework document.

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